(Can not add link because I totally made that up.) But as we suggested last week, we are not done with Olivia, our resident hot chick. When I go through my inbox, I do read every message.
No, there will be no more stories of woe, no more pleas for sympathy for the complicated predicament of being an attractive lady online. That might sound like a lot of time, but it generally only takes 10-30 seconds to read a message.
I asked her one question, and the response I received was pure gold. When you’ve got a bunch of emails to choose from, it’s pretty hard to select one that, in the one moment it has to advertise, offers only the word “(none)”. So, generally I’ll go back and find their original message, reread their new message, look at their profile, and decide whether to respond. I actually think it’s not a bad idea to send two emails to everyone you write, if you feel like spending that sort of time on Internet dating, and don’t mind veering dangerous close to serial killer zone.
You may think this applies only to men looking for women, or folks trying to attract someone a bit out of their league – but that isn’t so. Most captivating subject line in that assortment goes to…the guy who wrote “86”, I guess? I’ve just gone from spending 10-30 seconds on your email and probably not even looking at your profile to a few minutes thinking about you. But you gotta handle the second email just right (for suggestions, follow the link). A third email is a little too Bates Motel for Olivia’s tastes.
The internet is still abuzz from INAM’s shocking expose, Match From a Hot Girl’s Perspective. Here’s Olivia’s suggestion: I honestly don’t mind when someone emails me twice.
In fact, just today it was reposted on the Huffington Post! In fact, I probably respond to more second emails than first emails.
However, I’m not gonna play ball immediately because, you know, busy and important or not interested enough to invest the time in creating a solid response.It then becomes an exercise in scheduling and endurance and takes all the fun out of it, IMO.)(4) I am simply not interested and my non-response is indeed a polite “no.”So you see, there are many reasons why a girl might not respond to your first message and only one of them is true non-interest.I guess it should be noted that the others kind of hinge on lack of intense interest too.(My intuition says two weeks, but is that too long/long enough?) And for those of you who have made this work (if anyone), what should the follow-up contain to more likely encourage a response? Mattdude, theres no reasoning for the female mind set on here,if people are really serious about meeting someone, they should send an email shortly after reading one,common courtesy suggests they send one back if they are or arent interested,no need or sense in leaving someone to wonder what believe me,no one gets so many emails on here that they cant reply.